The vows have been said, the gifts have been unwrapped, and the thank you notes have been sent.
The wedding is officially over, but now what? Now you're married, which is a huge commitment.
You may have Mature couple still up for it to not become like every other old boring married couple out there, but that's a bit easier said than done. Luckily, we have 20 pieces of advice for newlywed s that will help you to start a marriage strong and keep that bond as you continue on your lives together.
The number one most important thing that every married couple needs to do is communicate. This doesn't mean you need to text nonstop throughout the work day, but never stop getting to know your spouse. Talk about politics, music, food, and whatever else is important in your life.
When you are entirely comfortable having meaningful conversations, you'll find it a lot easier to broach more difficult topics.
No matter how well-suited a couple is, it's just not possible to see eye to eye in every situation. When things go wrong, it's easy to assign blame and use that as ammunition to win a fight. Marriage isn't about being right; it's about being a team. Rather than wasting energy attacking one another in an argument, just focus your attention on the problem at hand instead.
There will always be problems and things that go wrong, and how you choose to handle them will define your marriage.
While it's important to share interests with your spouse, there will eventually be something they like to do that you have zero interest in. This doesn't mean that you'll never have to suck it up and tag along for a car show or a night at the ballet, but acknowledge early on where those differences lie, and let them just go do that with their friends.
Togetherness is always good for a marriage, but each person needs to take time for themselves as well. If you can, try to eat dinner with your spouse every night. It'll be a great time to connect about the day, destress, and enjoy one another. If work schedules make dinner out of Mature couple still up for it question, try breakfast or lunch instead.
If you get in the habit of making time for each other right out of the gate, it'll be a lot easier to keep that connection as time goes on and if your family expands to include children.
Money is the number one cause of divorce, so set yourself up for success right out of the gate. Meet with a financial planner to discuss your goals and how you can best achieve them. While you probably should have done this before getting married, figure out where each one is sitting in terms of debt and credit rating, and decide what to do about improving both of those. Be proactive, and Mature couple still up for it should be fine. Waiting for marriage to have sex isn't nearly as common nowadays, so many couples have usually found a sexual rhythm before walking down the aisle.
When you're dating, it's okay for one person to spend a holiday with their family, while the other visits their own family.
After getting married, however, it's a team effort. Mature couple still up for it about what holiday traditions are the most important for each person and figure out how to best accommodate both sides of the family.
After you've been married for a while and jobs, kids, and routine start to set in, married couples don't always go out as much as they used to. While date nights might need a bit more planning ahead of time, but you need that time to reconnect. If you and your spouse are annoyed at one another, the middle of the night when you are both exhausted and not thinking clearly will not produce a productive conversation.
If it's something that won't get resolved quickly, remind your spouse how much you love him or her, and then set a time to resume the discussion later, when cooler and more well-rested minds can prevail.
Not everyone views love the same. Some people think material possessions show affection, while others prefer physical connections. If you are constantly telling your spouse how much you love them but they would prefer that you show it in a different way, do what you can to let them know where your affections are.
When you are with someone for several years, your lives are generally entrenched in routine, which can feel boring at times. Sometimes things happen and you think you never want to speak to your spouse again, but all isn't lost. If something isn't working, figure out a way to fix it.
Getting married does not change a person. At least, it shouldn't.